Liam Moggan helps to plan and deliver the Tutor Development Programmes, he also coordinates the National Assimilation Scheme. He has been involved with Coaching Ireland since 1991 when a Coach Education Development Team was set up to examine coach education worldwide and help devise and implement a programme suitable for Ireland. He began working full time in the Centre in 1998.
Liam has an interest in all sports, is a former middle distance athlete and is actively involved as a coach in a range of individual and team sports. Prior to this role Liam was a teacher for many years.
Throughout the presentation Liam’s style was very enlightening, full of excellent examples, poetry and stories, while constantly providing simple and valuable techniques to assist you, the parent or guardian, coach your children on the journey to adulthood.
It is very hard to try and fully capture all the content discussed during the night, therefore we have provided a brief summary of the key areas addressed. To learn more about Liam Moggan you can visit the Coaching Ireland website at http://www.nctc.ul.ie/staffProfiles.html#liam
The talk focused on coaching skills for parents in the core areas below:
· Balance between expectation and acceptance
· Pause awhile
· Raise awareness
· Help you focus in a deliberate way
Balance between expectation and acceptance
“Sometimes our best is not good enough”. As parents we can try and push our children to achieve even better than their best, sometimes we really know they can do much better. However as parents we need to accept that “Sometimes OK is good enough”. Liam spent the opening section of the presentation expressing the need for parents to try and get this balance right. It can be hard but it’s very important to know when not to push your child. This is at the core of coaching your child for a balanced life.
Pause awhile
Through poetry, Liam clearly expressed the need for parents to pause awhile, to slow down and reflect on life, let your child understand the need to step back and reflect. Liam explained in detail the thinking behind reflection. If a child achieves something great without knowing how or why they achieved this success they may not be able to recreate this situation again. Therefore after every success or every failure the pause and reflect will enable you and your child to plan for the future. The quality of your attention to your child determines the quality of your child’s reflection.
"LEISURE"
What is this life if, full of care,
We have no time to stand and stare.
No time to stand beneath the boughs
And stare as long as sheep or cows.
No time to see, when woods we pass,
Where squirrels hide their nuts in grass.
No time to see, in broad daylight,
Streams full of stars, like skies at night.
No time to turn at Beauty's glance,
And watch her feet, how they can dance.
No time to wait till her mouth can
Enrich that smile her eyes began.
A poor life this if, full of care,
We have no time to stand and stare.
Raise awareness
During the early years of their lives our children are acquiring wisdom, to make this successful the child needs the support of their parents and school in partnership. It is worth noting at this stage “coaching is to take out” and as parents we take out what we put in.
“Vision without technique is blind”. We need to help our child achieve their vision. To make a difference there are three elements that should join together:
· Change behaviour
· Create climate
· Grow a relationship
To grow a relationship with you and your children, you are the coach and your child is the player. The learning zone links between both of you is interaction, communication, relationships and conversation. This learning zone will be hard if you want to succeed. For change behaviour you have to create a climate outside your child’s comfort zone. In doing so building the right relationship will determine success. Thus you must spent time with your child understanding them, really getting to know them. There are two main factors to be avoided as they destroy your child’s chance of achieving their vision:
· Politics
· Nonsense
Help the parent focus in a deliberate way
As parents we need to get our children to be independent. In Seamus Heaney’s long poem sequence “Station Island,” the speaker, on a pilgrimage, is visited by ghosts who rebuke him in an almost Dickensian fashion. Simplification is a function of earnestness; inclusiveness is a function of imagination. It is in encouraging the imagination that the old ghost tells the poet to “let go, let fly …” and “strike your note.” This powerful poem demonstrates the role parents need to play in the upbringing of their child to coach them in the right direction.
Then I knew him in the flesh
out there on the tarmac among the cars,
wintered hard and sharp as a blackthorn bush.
His voice eddying with the vowels of all rivers
came back to me, though he did not speak yet,
a voice like a prosecutor’s or a singer’s,
cunning, narcotic, mimic, definite
as a steel nib’s downstroke, quick and clean,
and suddenly he hit a litter basket
with his stick, saying, ‘your obligation
is not discharged by any common rite.
What you do you must do on your own.
The main thing is to write
for the joy of it. Cultivate a work-lust
that imagines its haven like your hands at night
dreaming the sun in the sunspot of a breast.
You are fasted now, light-headed, dangerous.
Take off from here. And don’t be so earnest,
so ready for the sackcloth and the ashes.
Let go, let fly, forget.
You’ve listened long enough. Now strike your note.’
It was as if I had stepped free into space
alone with nothing that I had not known
already. Raindrops blew in my face
To let the genius out in our child we need to create the right challenge for them. To learn the child needs to be able to fail till they get it right. And as parents, and their coaches, we need to allow the child to fail. As parents sometimes failure is hard to accept but if the child is allowed to pause and given time to reflect, your child can grow up to live their dreams.
Thinking is good. We must allow and encourage our children to get outside their comfort zone. Put yourself in their shoes, learning a new skill is not simple. A strong relationship with your child will make it all work. In life the storm will rise and we need to work together. When the storm rises we revert to our survival instincts and the more important positive rituals become this key attributes to settle the storm.
“When we accept and value our own self we cease to be afraid of other people. We no longer have superiors and inferiors, only equals. If we can empower this believe in our children our job is complete.
Liam has an interest in all sports, is a former middle distance athlete and is actively involved as a coach in a range of individual and team sports. Prior to this role Liam was a teacher for many years.
Throughout the presentation Liam’s style was very enlightening, full of excellent examples, poetry and stories, while constantly providing simple and valuable techniques to assist you, the parent or guardian, coach your children on the journey to adulthood.
It is very hard to try and fully capture all the content discussed during the night, therefore we have provided a brief summary of the key areas addressed. To learn more about Liam Moggan you can visit the Coaching Ireland website at http://www.nctc.ul.ie/staffProfiles.html#liam
The talk focused on coaching skills for parents in the core areas below:
· Balance between expectation and acceptance
· Pause awhile
· Raise awareness
· Help you focus in a deliberate way
Balance between expectation and acceptance
“Sometimes our best is not good enough”. As parents we can try and push our children to achieve even better than their best, sometimes we really know they can do much better. However as parents we need to accept that “Sometimes OK is good enough”. Liam spent the opening section of the presentation expressing the need for parents to try and get this balance right. It can be hard but it’s very important to know when not to push your child. This is at the core of coaching your child for a balanced life.
Pause awhile
Through poetry, Liam clearly expressed the need for parents to pause awhile, to slow down and reflect on life, let your child understand the need to step back and reflect. Liam explained in detail the thinking behind reflection. If a child achieves something great without knowing how or why they achieved this success they may not be able to recreate this situation again. Therefore after every success or every failure the pause and reflect will enable you and your child to plan for the future. The quality of your attention to your child determines the quality of your child’s reflection.
"LEISURE"
What is this life if, full of care,
We have no time to stand and stare.
No time to stand beneath the boughs
And stare as long as sheep or cows.
No time to see, when woods we pass,
Where squirrels hide their nuts in grass.
No time to see, in broad daylight,
Streams full of stars, like skies at night.
No time to turn at Beauty's glance,
And watch her feet, how they can dance.
No time to wait till her mouth can
Enrich that smile her eyes began.
A poor life this if, full of care,
We have no time to stand and stare.
Raise awareness
During the early years of their lives our children are acquiring wisdom, to make this successful the child needs the support of their parents and school in partnership. It is worth noting at this stage “coaching is to take out” and as parents we take out what we put in.
“Vision without technique is blind”. We need to help our child achieve their vision. To make a difference there are three elements that should join together:
· Change behaviour
· Create climate
· Grow a relationship
To grow a relationship with you and your children, you are the coach and your child is the player. The learning zone links between both of you is interaction, communication, relationships and conversation. This learning zone will be hard if you want to succeed. For change behaviour you have to create a climate outside your child’s comfort zone. In doing so building the right relationship will determine success. Thus you must spent time with your child understanding them, really getting to know them. There are two main factors to be avoided as they destroy your child’s chance of achieving their vision:
· Politics
· Nonsense
Help the parent focus in a deliberate way
As parents we need to get our children to be independent. In Seamus Heaney’s long poem sequence “Station Island,” the speaker, on a pilgrimage, is visited by ghosts who rebuke him in an almost Dickensian fashion. Simplification is a function of earnestness; inclusiveness is a function of imagination. It is in encouraging the imagination that the old ghost tells the poet to “let go, let fly …” and “strike your note.” This powerful poem demonstrates the role parents need to play in the upbringing of their child to coach them in the right direction.
Then I knew him in the flesh
out there on the tarmac among the cars,
wintered hard and sharp as a blackthorn bush.
His voice eddying with the vowels of all rivers
came back to me, though he did not speak yet,
a voice like a prosecutor’s or a singer’s,
cunning, narcotic, mimic, definite
as a steel nib’s downstroke, quick and clean,
and suddenly he hit a litter basket
with his stick, saying, ‘your obligation
is not discharged by any common rite.
What you do you must do on your own.
The main thing is to write
for the joy of it. Cultivate a work-lust
that imagines its haven like your hands at night
dreaming the sun in the sunspot of a breast.
You are fasted now, light-headed, dangerous.
Take off from here. And don’t be so earnest,
so ready for the sackcloth and the ashes.
Let go, let fly, forget.
You’ve listened long enough. Now strike your note.’
It was as if I had stepped free into space
alone with nothing that I had not known
already. Raindrops blew in my face
To let the genius out in our child we need to create the right challenge for them. To learn the child needs to be able to fail till they get it right. And as parents, and their coaches, we need to allow the child to fail. As parents sometimes failure is hard to accept but if the child is allowed to pause and given time to reflect, your child can grow up to live their dreams.
Thinking is good. We must allow and encourage our children to get outside their comfort zone. Put yourself in their shoes, learning a new skill is not simple. A strong relationship with your child will make it all work. In life the storm will rise and we need to work together. When the storm rises we revert to our survival instincts and the more important positive rituals become this key attributes to settle the storm.
“When we accept and value our own self we cease to be afraid of other people. We no longer have superiors and inferiors, only equals. If we can empower this believe in our children our job is complete.
